Personal, Post Graduation Thoughts

Is Letting Go Always Necessary?

This post might sound a bit convoluted and rambled, but it’s been on my mind and seemed like an excellent moment to put some words to paper, especially for another edition of Post Graduation Thoughts.

This morning I came across an article where someone claimed that detachment was the #1 thing they wanted to work on in 2018. She felt liked she loved too hard, cared too much, and need to back up from everything and find herself. Though their goal makes total sense and might be the perfect route to them, it got me thinking.

Why are we always talking about “detaching ourselves” or “letting things go” in order to find growth? It seems like the first step to success is always “let ____ go”. Whether that be your lover, a bad habit, a friend, or anything that doesn’t seem to be “benefiting” you (I always hear people refer to the three F’s). I am definitely guilty of this. I’m always saying that if I just let go of that one thing, then all my goals will suddenly be achievable within closer reach.

I’m not saying that one must continue putting up with bullshit or less than they deserve because liberation can DEFINITELY be one of the first steps in order to see your own potential. But growth does not always happen through cutting ties, ending communication, or ceasing a certain action. Rather, it can be continuing communicating with someone in more productive ways than you have in the past. Growth can be using the situation you have in front of you to your advantage instead of abandoning it. Or even seeing the beauty in something that initially seemed like trash and an obstacle. I’m not sure. What about y’all?

Do you think it’s necessary to let something go in order to change yourself?

5 thoughts on “Is Letting Go Always Necessary?”

  1. Letting go is the not only most logical option, but the easist. Is it always right? No, not at all; but what I will say is it’s harder to face up to reality then to just move on. When we face reality we have to realize our fault in any situation. This is similar to when in court, rather than pleading guilty or not guilty you plead “no contest plea” which means that you’re not contending one way or another. Same frame of thought.

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  2. Execellent writeup. I think all of us as people are redeemable, and even though letting folks go is the easiest way to detach from whatever negative experience you gained from it, always recognize there are two sides. Maybe we can take a “break” from that person, but I don’t believe cutting them all the way off is necessary. I have family members that be on BS, I just simply love them from afar. Also, I can use that time to assess my approach and see where I can face certain truths about myself and see where I can improve. A lot of times, the changes we are looking for are really needed within, even as we deal with difficult people or situations.


  3. I think it’s necessary to have discernment: knowing when to let go, who to let go, what to let go. I think our generation is so hell bent on cutting ties with any and everything because it’s “easier” to build something new, rather than continue to invest in what you’ve already invested in. We don’t value putting in the work. For ex, Sometimes you have to have that bad first job experience to open the door to a better one. We expect all things to yield quick rewards. We aren’t looking introspectively as others have said. We have to appreciate the process – our process, other people’s process, etc. – because Rome wasn’t built in a day (lol corny) so neither will your career, relationship, friendship, finances, etc. Knowing when/what/who to let go or when to change your approach requires knowing yourself, which is the first and most difficult time consuming battle.

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    1. yes. yes. yes. couldn’t have said it better myself. especially the part about expecting things to yield quick rewards. as a microwave generation, I think we don’t always take the time to self reflect. instead, we take the easy way out.


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