This post might sound a bit convoluted and rambled, but it’s been on my mind and seemed like an excellent moment to put some words to paper, especially for another edition of Post Graduation Thoughts.
This morning I came across an article where someone claimed that detachment was the #1 thing they wanted to work on in 2018. She felt liked she loved too hard, cared too much, and need to back up from everything and find herself. Though their goal makes total sense and might be the perfect route to them, it got me thinking.
Why are we always talking about “detaching ourselves” or “letting things go” in order to find growth? It seems like the first step to success is always “let ____ go”. Whether that be your lover, a bad habit, a friend, or anything that doesn’t seem to be “benefiting” you (I always hear people refer to the three F’s). I am definitely guilty of this. I’m always saying that if I just let go of that one thing, then all my goals will suddenly be achievable within closer reach.
I’m not saying that one must continue putting up with bullshit or less than they deserve because liberation can DEFINITELY be one of the first steps in order to see your own potential. But growth does not always happen through cutting ties, ending communication, or ceasing a certain action. Rather, it can be continuing communicating with someone in more productive ways than you have in the past. Growth can be using the situation you have in front of you to your advantage instead of abandoning it. Or even seeing the beauty in something that initially seemed like trash and an obstacle. I’m not sure. What about y’all?
Do you think it’s necessary to let something go in order to change yourself?